Synastry chart: the involvement of Pluto! need your opinion!

[imo]

Hello everyone! I hope you're all well!

I met someone 3 months ago, when we met there was an instant attraction, I never felt something like this before! I think it was both ways because he came over and we exchanged e-mails to keep in touch etc.
The thing is that there is distance between us (literally speaking, we live far far away from each other at the moment) but I'm still thinking of him.. (too much perhaps) I was wondering if this is just from my side..
After I read posts about some important aspects in synastry charts, I wanted to ask your opinion if there is a possibility for something more "solid "in the future.. I will probably see him again in a couple of months, but you never know, timing is everything!

In the synastry chart, my Sun is opposition his Moon (challenging aspect!) and his Sun is squaresquare my Moon (too challenging I would say) but there is a connection there.
His Sun is trine my Venus and also in conjunction with my Mars.
His Uranus is opposite my Venus (this could probably indicate the whole out of the blue meeting).
Now, the pluto involvement in the chart could give us a hint about the intense emotions (+thoughts);
e.g. my venus trine his pluto and also trine his sun and opposite his neptune (I don't like this, sounds like deception!)
My pluto forms many aspects with his planets as well, e.g. my Pluto trine his Moon, his Mercury and his Mars.
Am I supposed to be the obsessed one here? embarrassed

Apart from these aspects, there are some that may be interpreted as good ones (with respects to durability) like my moon trine his saturn (I think at least!)
Another aspect I noticed is my true node in conjunction with his moon (and mercury) which might give this "karma" essence.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this!
ps1: so sorry for the tiring post!
ps2: I am the inner circle!

Thank you very much in advance!

 

[Lithuel]

My partner and I have some traditionally "challenging" aspects in our synastry, and altho it has been difficult oftentimes, it has also been rewarding. I wouldn't really want an "easy" relationship... I need to be growing to feel alive.

My Sun squares his Sun
My Moon squares his Moon
His Pluto opp Venus makes a Grand Cross to my Mars opp Saturn/Neptune

It's all in how you both use that energy. If you both are very conscious about the potential difficulties you would face, then it's much easier to face them. On the other hand, if one or both of you isn't ready to face the ugly truth, then it could be bad.

Since his Moon/Mercury are conjunct your North Node, it could come down to whether you're willing to make that next step to further your personal evolution. It will be uncomfortable and unfamiliar. It won't be easy. In some people, it stresses them out too much and they turn to drugs or alcohol or other negative coping mechanisms. You may or may not, depending on many factors, but most importantly, are you prepared to deal with what comes up?

 

[imo]

Lithuel, many many thanks for your reply! it's true that every relationship is challenging! it's always good to hear other people's experiences about "tough" aspects in their charts. Personal development is everything! Have a nice day!

 

[love-thinking]

Well I'd say don't get into a relationship with a man if you have hard aspects with pluto like a square, opposition or conjunction unless you're emotionally strong and confident.

I dated a man for a short time and it was ridiculous. My venus squared his pluto, venus-mars conjunction double wammy, we also had a juno-venus linkage, and the worst, moon opposite pluto.

When we met the second time, we literally couldn't keep our hands off eachother everytime we'd be alone. I literally broke all my boundaries. I even thought he was my twin flame. We entered a relationship afterwards. But I'll tell you something. This isn't an easy relationship. We dated for a short time, but I felt like he was trying to control every aspect of my life.

Pluto will make you feel good about yourself only to make you fall again. You'll literally feel as if he doesn't want you at some point but then you realize, whether you're his ideal or not, he'll ALWAYS be with you. He'll simply criticize your flaws just like you do every morning when you're looking in the mirror or reminiscing memories indicating your own character flaws. He'll slowly mold you into whatever he wants you to be. He doesn't like you for who you are or give importance to your choices or decisions, but he's hooked. Then he'll put a leash on you and train you like you're his little puppy. Afterwards, you wouldn't even know yourself. Jealousy is off the charts and you'll see it in the way he holds your hands or pulls your shirt up if something he doesn't want something showing, whether it's shoulders or clevage. Wouldn't want thieves stealing his property, now would he? Sometimes you'll feel so consumed by the connection that you'll want to run. At other times, you'll feel the same way. Sexually, if you do decide to remain with him and you're a virgin, forget staying that way for long. He also would never let you distance yourself or give you any space, he'll want everything of you.

But the pros to this relationship, he's the only man that'll wake up at 8 am just to spend time with you and won't leave you for any shortcomings or embarrassing moments but obviously will simply point them out.

I ended up leaving him because I couldn't handle it and I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it when I enter university where my main focus would be on my education. After I left him, I cried for nights. He didn't even want to remain friends but me being the venus was so attached and I still think about him. I got into astrology afterwards and compared our charts and now I know why it felt the way it did. I would only get back together with him that is if we crossed paths if I am secure emotionally, mature, and strong. But now, focusing on myself seems to be a blessing in disguise. Good luck.

 

[imo]

Dear love thinking,

I saw your reply yesterday after a whole year.. wow
Well, probably if I read your message this time last year, I wouldn't have been able to relate to what you wrote..

Last year I was involved with someone I had pluto square venus (I was the venus).
Your description was like reading exactly what I went through.
At the beginning of the relationship everything seemed so perfect but it didn't even last more than 4 months and things ended very very badly.
So many power struggle games, the guy was calling the shots, he brought up so many insecurities about myself. It was my first more serious relationship and I'm devastated. Now, 5 months after the breakup I feel like I'm obsessed with him, thinking of him etc. It's more like a love/hate thing. I need this to be over.

I know that I won't underestimate this aspect again :S
I hope everything is going well for you!