Saturn in the 7th: Am I Doomed to Unfulfilling Relationships?

[quest]

Hi everyone, I’m 32 years old, and I’ve been reflecting on my love life and how Saturn might be influencing things. Saturn rules my 7th house, and it also sits in the 7th. To be honest, my love life hasn’t been great. I’ve never truly been in a relationship where I was in love with my partner, except for my first boyfriend, but he cheated on me after a year. I stayed with him for a while, but I wasn’t in love anymore. Since then, I’ve found myself in very toxic relationships, I've been scammed, psychologically and verbally abused, and in general relationships where I felt trapped. I ended up in long-term relationships (always over 3 years, with the longest being 5), but I never really wanted to be in them. It’s like I felt stuck.

I have only ever been in love once, with a friend. I never had the courage to tell him how I felt, until I moved to a different country and I told him, But then, he simply stopped talking to me. It’s been 10 years, and I still think about him, he’s the only one who makes my heart race when I think of him, even though we haven’t spoken in ages.

What confuses me about Saturn in the 7th is that I thought it would mean I’d be in relationships with older people, but everyone I’ve been with or liked has been younger than me. I also thought it meant that a committed, stable relationship would come later in life, but now I’m 32 and there’s no sign of that happening. The one thing I have noticed is that my relationships always become serious very quickly. Like, I’ve cohabited with all of my ex-partners, even though it wasn’t something I necessarily wanted, it just sort of happened.

So, I’m wondering, how is Saturn really affecting my love life? Am I doomed to keep feeling this way, or is there a chance for me to have a happy, fulfilling relationship one day? I’d love to hear your opinion

 

[Ecliptique]

Hello quest,

this year does not look easy to be loved, however you absolutely want to have a result by being in the consideration of the other, and this until February 2025... You tend to evolve your way of doing things by having certainty and doing the best you can. You want to hold on to the fact of being loved at all costs by wanting to control it. Etc.
You will be able to come back and take stock of the result you have had.

The Next year it will be about solving a problem and taking on a challenge in relation to what is difficult to achieve (Jupiter Transit).

Ecliptique.

 

[Frisiangal]

Hi,
I had never seen such a 'soft looking chart' as above, until I realised that it was based on a traditional astrology approach as it does not include Chiron or the outer 'conscious-raising' planets. Is this the intent? If not, you will see by their inclusion that the chart takes on a totally different perspective with regards your relating to others ... the 7th and 11th house planet emphasis.

I have never heard of 'Spirit' as position in a chart. The glyph shown would now put its position under influence of the transits from Neptune and Pluto.

Looking at your previous posts full of questions, you might find that including the conscious-raising planets in the natal chart can provide you with some self explanatory answers.

 

[Blister]

Saturn in 7th is often an indicator of parental-type marriages. One partner plays the role of parent to the other. For good or bad, depending on the aspects to Saturn. Your Saturn is trine your sun. You are an authoritarian/leader type in relationships. Nothing passive about that unless you haven't realized the connection to your Sun to Venus and it's connection to Saturn.

Mars in Aries unaspected is a likely problem.

Sometimes there is a cultural or societal issue in forming relationships. One culture/society values discretion and polite courting and another might give the choice over to their parents/family for selecting a mate.

My thought is this - Mars in Aries! hot to go, lol. Take the bull by the proverbial horns and step out of your cultural limitations and seek out relations with people who culturally or ethnically different and your mars can be expressed within that environment.

Sun Venus conjunction in 11th has high hopes/aspirations in couplings. The persons you will attract will be part of some greater good that you align with. Communes, even.

I am not a debbie downer saturn astrologer. Might be my own personal astro blessing w/my own saturn - but Saturn doesn't 'doom' it secures. If there is some other doomful point in a chart that connects to Saturn, Saturn will anchor that doom. One has to get away from the 'doom' of the planet that Saturn aspects, imo.