Will my husband and I divorce?

[summerbreeze]

Guys, I really need your help on this one.
My husband and I are separated for awhile. We were in no contact for about 2 months. Today is our wedding anniversary and he contacted me today to ask whether he can see our cats and to discuss some things. He also said he had divorce papers and that he needed me to sign them. He didn't know that I left the city where we were living. I haven't permanently left it though. He seemed surprised by it. We did mention a divorce earlier but agreed that neither of us wants it. Today he contacted me out of the blue. This whole time I was hoping we could reconcile, that a miracle can happen.
Is he bluffing? Does he really want a divorce and will he send me divorce papers? What can I expect?
I'm still shaking. I still have feelings for him. And it's so mean that he did it on our wedding day.

I really need your help.

 

[IleneK]

As Merc and Jup, you both really care for each other. You are in each other's sign, so you both receive the other by dignity, the strongest of essential dignities. You are also both angular, in each other's house very close to the Asc and Desc. And you both apply to aspect the other, by retrograde motion. So both returning at this time.

Too, there are a few troubling matters. One is the general weakness of your respective significators, both in their detriment and also retrograde. So neither of you may have much power to act. I suppose the greater concern is Merc and Jup meeting by opposition, which is characterized often as a coming together but one that does not last, that comes apart. But this opposition is not singular; it is part of an ongoing series of oppositions continuing until just after Christmas. So this might been seen as coming together repeatedly, sometimes led by you or him or both of you, but it is still characterized by oppositional energy. And after the last opposition near the end of the year, then next planet you/Merc meet is Saturn by square, the teacher of life's hard lesson, told in a more jolting or blindsiding way by square.
So as I write at the top of this post, there is a lot between you that connects: genuine affection and interest in one another. But at the very least, it looks like it may be quite a challenging time before you, and the series of oppositions between is a concern about whether things will last or not. I think you need to consider carefully if this is really the right thing for you, the kind of relationship that is really worth keeping and building a life with. If it is, then both of you, not just one or the other, may have to fight hard to keep it in tact.

 

[summerbreeze]

Thank you, IleneK. Thank you so much, I appreciate this greatly. I don't know what to say. I fought for so long for this marriage to work. And I know that none of this is rational, but I do love him very much. Our marriage was/is very turbulent, we had lots of fights, insecurities, jealousy, etc. But we couldn't stay apart for too long. We always came back together somehow. I was expecting that things go as usual this time as well, but it was different, sadly. Many people were influencing our marriage, his family, mine.
But I didn't expect him to decide on our marriage today, on our wedding anniversary and I suspect he wanted to provoke me to react since we were in no contact for so long. I hope he us bluffing, but this is a hope of a desperate woman Then why would he start such a serious issue just to provoke me.
Thank you again for your thorough insight and for your meaningful advice.

 

[IleneK]

Thank you, IleneK. Thank you so much, I appreciate this greatly. I don't know what to say. I fought for so long for this marriage to work. And I know that none of this is rational, but I do love him very much. Our marriage was/is very turbulent, we had lots of fights, insecurities, jealousy, etc. But we couldn't stay apart for too long. We always came back together somehow. I was expecting that things go as usual this time as well, but it was different, sadly. Many people were influencing our marriage, his family, mine.
But I didn't expect him to decide on our marriage today, on our wedding anniversary and I suspect he wanted to provoke me to react since we were in no contact for so long. I hope he us bluffing, but this is a hope of a desperate woman Then why would he start such a serious issue just to provoke me.
Thank you again for your thorough insight and for your meaningful advice.

My heart is with you in this unsettling time. For all the charts and advice, we never know for sure what will happen. I am wishing for the very best outcome for both of you.

 

[summerbreeze]

My heart is with you in this unsettling time. For all the charts and advice, we never know for sure what will happen. I am wishing for the very best outcome for both of you.

I hope that too.

 

[Sunrise]

To add
let him calm down a bit, don't be abrupt with him (Mars in your 3rd house = tensions, angry words) because he is deeply hurt by what you have said to him, he doesn't show it, he hides it. It is also good not to make any impulsive or hasty moves.
both of you support your position but it seems that you cannot express it (weakness of both planets)

 

[summerbreeze]

Thank you, Sunrise No, I will not fight with him. Yesterday I was calm but distanced, even cold. I have no strength in me to fight. We had a huge fight 2 months ago and then I said some things to him. But not any more. He is very proud, I know that, but if he made a decision, I will not question it. I do feel great pain and I do hope (still) that he is bluffing, but I will accept his decision. Sadly.